Communication | Conscious Relationship Seminars and Podcast

Emotional Mastery: The Secret to Incredible Relating

With Ilene Dillon, MSW, MFT, LCSW

Anyone who has made New Year’s resolutions only to lose resolve within two or three weeks, has an idea of how powerful human emotions can be in everyday life.

In fact, emotions are more important than you can ever imagine. They underlie everything we do and create (and fail at). Most people, including psychotherapists, have little understanding of the true role emotions in our life.

Learn this cutting-edge information on the role of emotions in your life and relationships and become the master of your emotions that you are intended to be.

In this program, you will learn:

The true role emotions are designed to fill.
How to find and use your “Human User’s Manual.”
What animals show us about emotional mastery that we can use.
Anger, jealousy and loneliness: their signals, and how to use them.
How to improve your emotional mastery by eliminating the two saddest words in any language.
How emotional mastery enhances relationships

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Addressing Relationship Energy Drainers

With Ilene Dillon, MSW, MFT, LCSW

Do you know that the way a relationship starts off, it tends to continue?

Too often we spend weeks or months in a relationship, only to find it is not working for us because we feel drained, guilty, very angry, or “used” in the relationship.

You can save yourself time, energy, and pain by learning to recognize immediately when your energy is being drained and what you can do about it. Whether you have a penchant for attracting energy draining individuals or you experience energy draining only occasionally, you’ll appreciate having readily-available tools for dealing with this all-too-common relationship challenge.

In this program you will learn:

How and why energy draining occurs
6 ways to immediately recognize when your energy is being drained.
Two prominent patterns of energy draining.
Three actions you can take to neutralize energy draining from others.
How to utilize the 72-Hour Rule to strengthen yourself in relationships.
The D.E.S.C. Plus-A-Step method for communicating powerfully.

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Creating Love Beyond Words: Straight Talk for Women About Men

With Pat Love, Ed.D

You’ll never get a closer marriage by talking to a man like you talk to your girlfriends. It’s not about “communication,” it’s about connection. Men want closer marriages just as much as women- The stereotype of the aloof or domineering male covers up the fact that he wants to be closer too, but not if he has to feel like a woman.

In this seminar Dr. Pat Love talks to women about how to get the love you want from the man in your life .

In this program you will learn:

10 Ways Women Drive Men Away
About the emotional vocabulary gap- why it sounds phony when he says it
How to handle male emotions: hint- you can’t be too direct too quickly
The truth motivating the shut- down and controlling men, and what to do about it
Four nonverbal ways to connect with your man
New information about what brings men and women together, and what tears relationships apart
“Malespeak”- what he’s saying that you don’t hear
What a man would tell you if he could

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Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband in the Man You Married

with Robert and Jane Alter

After thirty-seven years of marriage and almost that many as therapists and marriage counselors, Robert and Jane Alter have concluded that in many cases men and women are not equally responsible for the problems in marriages.

Their experience suggests that mostly it’s the men who cause the disconnection. The wives always have some work to do on themselves, and sometimes a lot of work, but when it comes to knowing how to really be in relationship, how to have true connection and true intimacy in a marriage, the men are a piece of work.

Jane and Robert have also seen that there are many great men in this world who deep in their hearts want to be great husbands to their wives, and some have gotten off to a great start, but others have no idea, or a bunch of wrong ideas, about how to do that, and need some serious help.

Robert’s book, Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband…in the Man You Married, and the Alters’ work, which they call the “good husband work,” is the help they provide.

In this program you learn:

• The definition of a good husband

• The five big lies men tell themselves to keep from changing

• The one-way street of change a man has to walk down in his marriage before it becomes a two-way street

• What women have to teach men about connection, relationship, and great marriage

• The wife’s role in helping her husband become a good husband

• How to get a guy to do the good husband work

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49 minutes

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How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

with Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. In this program Dr. Steven Stosny reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness:

Love is not about better communication. It’s about connection.
You’ll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends.
Male emotions are like women’s sexuality: you can’t be too direct too quickly.

There are four ways to connect with a man:

Touch
Activity
Sex
Routines

Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they have to act like a woman. Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away.

The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life.

In this program you learn:

The same vulnerabilities that bring us together tear us apart
Why we fight
The worst thing a woman does to a man
The worst thing a man does to a woman
The Power Love Formula: 4 3/4 minutes a day to a powerful relationship

(43 minutes)

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The Couples Circle: A Powerful Peer Support Model for Conscious Couples

With Nevin Valentine, Darrell Holdaway, and David Steele

A “Couples Circle” is a peer group of couples supporting each other to have a successful and fulfilling conscious relationship. This audio program provides the format and specific instructions for how the Couples Circle works.

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You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore!

with Steven Stosny, Ph.D.

Millions of people walk on eggshells, constantly second-guessing themselves, editing what they say, worrying if they did things okay, trying to be in a good mood, all to prevent criticism, cold shoulders, angry outbursts, or to keep from creating negative impressions. They lose their very sense of self and don’t like the persons they’ve become.

Dr. Stosny, author of You Don’t Have to Take It Anymore: How to Turn Your Resentful, Angry, or Abusive Relationship into a Compassionate, Loving One (Free Press, January 2006) discusses: